I don’t know about you but over the years, I have used pretty much every excuse out there for not setting goals. I wasted so many years. I often wonder where I’d be right now if I had only started sooner.
This is why I’m writing to YOU. I want to encourage you to set a goal today. Don’t live a life of what ifs and regret.
Setting and achieving my goals has changed my life. I wish I had had someone help and guide me through setting goals when I started. That’s why I want to help you.
I don’t want you to waste years looking for ‘the perfect plan’ like I did. I want you to have success in not only setting your goals, but achieving them.
I want to show you how simple it can really be, once you’re able to get past the myriad of stumbling blocks that may be in your path.
Whether it’s time constraints, mindset or lack of motivation. My goal is to give you the tools to move forward quickly, and celebrate some wins.
To set and achieve your goals today, not someday.
You Don’t Set Goals Because of Fear
Fear of Setting the Wrong Goals
The only true wrong goal is a goal not set and acted on. You truly will never know if a goal is ‘right’ or not if you do nothing.
That being said, you WILL have goals you set that you will find don’t work for you. Whether because of time or resource constraints, setting too large of a goal, or setting a goal you later find out holds no interest for you.
No worries. This is completely normal. It’s what we do next that makes THE difference. You can either give up, or learn from this experience and move on.
Things you can learn from this:
- Better understanding of yourself. Your likes, your wants, your needs.
- The ability to judge how long you need to commit to accomplishing a goal.
- Knowing when a goal is too large and overwhelming, and should be broken into smaller goals.
Fear of Failure
Failing is good. Fail fast, fail hard. I think Steve Jobs said that. Never let the fear of failing keep you from your dreams.
Some of the greatest things we achieve in life come from just putting in the effort. Just doing. The more things you try, the more failures you will have. That’s part of life. But you will also have your most successes.
If you don’t try, you won’t fail or succeed. You will live a nice safe, boring life filled with regrets and what ifs.
Failure teaches you what works and what doesn’t. It helps you determine the steps to try next time. So then, is it really a failure? I believe nothing is really a failure if it teaches you something.
Failure is simply a learning tool towards success.
You Don’t Set Goals Because You’re Skeptical
Not Seeing Anyone Keep Their Goals
Hearing how people set new year’s resolutions and dont keep them. This is all we hear about at the beginning of every year. The big question asked is how long your resolution lasted. A full month into the new year is considered excellent.
What’s worse is that we set these resolutions knowing we won’t keep them. ‘Nobody does’, is what we tell ourselves so we feel okay about not keeping ours.
So then all you hear is how nobody keeps their goals or New Year’s resolutions. I wish there was more focus being put on the millions of people every year who DO achieve their goals.
Not Seeing Anyone Around You Set Goals
To be quite honest, I didn’t know anyone who set goals until I was 25. I’d read articles and books on setting goals, but no one I knew ever mentioned setting goals.
Near New Years at age 25 someone in the flesh, finally talked to me about setting goals. My best friend asked me one night if I had set my goals for the next year yet.
I was a little stumped. So I answered with the first thing that came to mind. “Goals? I don’t need to set goals.” I will never forget her answering question as long as I live.
“ So, you’re perfectly happy with your life?”
Umm.. NO!. Double NO in fact.
Then came years of fumbling around in the dark trying to figure out how to not only set my goals but actually achieve them.
Still no one talked to me about setting goals, or if they did it was in a casual “I’ve set some new year’s resolutions” type of conversation.
I really wish people would open up more and talk about setting their goals. But the big thing I’ve learned after this reflection, is that I never asked anyone about goal setting.
Why didn’t I? There were many years where I would never talk to anyone about my goals. The problems and questions I had, I kept to myself.
If I had been more open, and asked other’s about setting goals, I may have saved myself a lot of wasted time and effort. I may have found some like minded people that could support me.
I felt that as long as nobody knew I was working on a goal, if I didn’t achieve it, it was okay. It wasn’t until I started to figure out how to consistently achieve my goals that I felt comfortable talking about them.
You Don’t Set Goals Because It’s so overwhelming!
Where Do I Start?
Many times the big hurdle for setting goals is just not knowing where to start. When I first started setting goals, I wished I had someone to sit me down and go over everything I needed to do to set, plan, and achieve my goals.
I fumbled around for what seemed like forever trying to figure out a system that really worked for me. Something simple, quick, and achievable was all I needed. It actually took me much longer to figure that out than it should have. I got stuck thinking it had to be some big, intricate plan.
It didn’t. And it doesn’t for you.
Too Many Things You Want To Change
Figuring out what goals to set. This seems so difficult. The trick to overcoming this hurdle is to just pick one thing and do it.
Is it the right goal? It doesn’t matter. If you set a short term goal for yourself, take the necessary action to achieve it, then it is a success. A goal achieved is always the right goal. You just have to start. Set any goal.
The more you see how setting and completing your goals changes your life, the easier it gets to know what goals you really want to set next time.
- Get out a piece of paper.
- Write down 3-5 things you would like to achieve in the next 3 months.
- Decide which of those items is the most important to you.
- Do a mind dump to figure out the actions you need to take and the tools you will need to accomplish this project. (see Mind Dump for Clarity)
- Make yourself a schedule based on this information. What you can accomplish each week.
- Now start your first task!
After doing this exercise, don’t worry if your schedule to complete your project is 2 weeks or 6. It will differ based on the goal you have set.
Now focus on completing the tasks you’ve set for yourself each week. This is the simplest, quickest way of completing a goal.