I’ve heard the question “what is your why?” so many times but never really understood it until recently. How do you find your goal setting “why”?
I had been going through all of the goals that I had set in the last couple of years. The question I was asking myself is why were some of these goals easier to stick with than others?
There were 5 very interesting conclusions I came to after this exercise.
- They created the most change.
- They changed how I felt.
- They were on topics I was most interested in at the time.
- They were something that held importance to me.
- They aligned with my priorities.
After seeing this I decided to set this quarter’s goals based on what I learned. I must say, that working on these goals has been a breeze. I’m really loving my goals!!!
What changes do you want to make?
What changes do you want to make in your life? This entails both what you’d like to add to as well as take away from your life. Change is not always easy, and sometimes it can be scary.
- Helps you grow
- Opens new doors and opportunities
- Can be exciting, uplifting, and motivating
- Keeps you from feeling stagnant or stuck in your life
We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.Max DePree
Does your goal create real change in your life?
How do you want to feel?
How we feel about ourselves, those around us, our work, and our lives in general is important to think about when setting goals.
- If you feel like crap about yourself, focus on setting your goals to learn to love yourself. Take care of yourself and your needs.
- If you hate your job, focus your goals on how to feel happy and fulfilled in your work.
- If you feel lonely, and don’t have friends, focus on cultivating relationships, and joining clubs or groups.
- If you feel like your life is stagnant, or at a standstill, focus your goals on growth, and things that will move you forward.
- If you’re having problems dealing with your past, focus your goals on moving past those issues, so you can enjoy your life now, in the present.
Really look at the areas in your life that are currently bringing you down or holding you back. Set goals to create a different way of FEELING about your life.
In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or step back into safetyAbraham Maslow
Will your goal change how you feel?
What are you interested in?
Interests are ever changing. What motivates or excites us differs at different points of our lives. What are you really interested in right now?
If you really aren’t excited about reading, yet you feel like you SHOULD read more, this is a goal you will have a tough time with.
Many times the goals we set for ourselves are what we think we SHOULD be doing rather than something we really WANT to do.
If you set SHOULD goals you’re setting yourself up for failure. These goals are soooooo difficult if not impossible to achieve.
Passion is what draws you in, what excites you, and what propels you.Glenn C. Stewart
Is your goal something that interests and excites you?
What’s most important to you?
Setting goals that are important to YOU will make achieving your goals easy. You won’t have to force yourself to work on them.
One way you can figure out what’s important to you is by figuring out your pain points. What causes you pain, discomfort, or fear? What makes you feel overwhelmed or anxious?
- A bad relationship
- Poor health
- Being in debt
- Dreading going to work everyday
Another way of looking at this would be from a positive perspective. What lights you up? What motivates you? What have you always wanted to do or try?
Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.Oprah Winfrey
Do your goals focus on what’s really important to you right now?
What are your priorities?
The priorities we THINK we have are usually not what we ACTUALLY have. So first it’s important to figure out what you WANT your priorities to be.
An easy way to see this is to complete this little exercise:
- List out your top 5 priorities.
- Now list out the top 5 things you spend the most time, energy, and thought on. Notice how different your 2 lists are. Our REAL priorities are what we spend the most time, energy and thought on.
- List the top 5 priorities you WANT to have. Make sure these are what YOU want and not something you think you SHOULD prioritize.
Not figuring out what your priorities really are, leads to setting goals you think you SHOULD set, or that SOMEONE ELSE thinks you should set.
These are hard to achieve goals. Your goals need to be YOUR goals, based on YOUR priorities.
Follow your own passion—not your parents’, not your teachers’—yours.
Your “why” is what motivates you. It’s what gives you the ability to stick with your goals and achieve them.
You can certainly achieve goals without figuring out your why. But will these goals really matter to you?
If you have no reason to be striving to achieve a certain goal, what’s the point? Find your point. Figure out your “why?”.
Ask yourself these questions about your goals:
- Does your goal create real change in your life?
- Will your goal change how you feel?
- Is your goal something that interests and excites you?
- Do your goals focus on what’s really important to YOU right now?
- Do your goals align with YOUR priorities?