Our Thoughts Create Our Feelings. Change Your Thoughts To Change How You Feel.
Today I’m going to share with you something that I have learned about how our thoughts create our feelings. With this process of analyzing a thought, it Is possible to change the way you feel.
I will be sharing with you how to implement some easy to follow strategies. These strategies will not only help you recognize, analyze and understand your thoughts and feelings, but also how to start to make changes.
To be honest, I have heard of this concept off and on over the years, but never really understood where to start to make changes and how. It felt overwhelming and unattainable.
Until One day I came across a podcast by Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach School. I highly recommend you give her podcast a listen here.
What Do We Have Control Over In Our Lives?
- Our thoughts
- Our Feelings
- Our actions
- Our results
What Is Not In Our Control
- Other people
- The world
- Our past
As you can see, we have control over ourselves. If we want to take control of our lives we need to take control of these four areas listed above.
Thought = Feeling = Action, Inaction, Reaction
We can control our thoughts. Our thoughts create a feeling in us that will then create an action, inaction and/or reaction.
If my thoughts are:
Ugh I’m fat. I’m unlovable, What’s the point?
The way these thoughts make me feel are:
Depressed. unmotivated. Sad.
An inaction this may cause:
Not going to the gym.
An action this may cause:
Go out and buy that double cheeseburger that I think will make me feel better.
A reaction this may cause:
Being short and cranky with those around me.
Start listening to your thoughts
The first step to change our end result is to recognize the thoughts that started all this mess. Write those thoughts down.
When I started doing this I really was amazed at some of the thoughts that ran through my head at any given moment. Some thoughts I never realized I was having.
Ask yourself – Is this thought true? And Why?
Yes I am fat. No I’m not unlovable. The point is that when I make better choices, those choices that I make add up over time to help me with my goal of losing weight.
Where did this thought come from?
This thought came from my ex-husband telling me that I was fat, and putting me down even when that wasn’t true. It made me feel there wasn’t even a point to try anymore. Now I realize it was all a lie that I chose to believe. I allowed that story to control my actions, inactions, and reactions.
How do I want to feel?
I want to feel motivated, energized and good about myself.
What thoughts can create this feeling?
I am enough ( my favorite mantra). I feel better when I eat healthy and exercise. I have more energy when I eat healthy and exercise, Just do it (another favorite).
This is a process and it does take time.
What helped me was writing those questions down so I wouldn’t forget the process and could refer to them frequently. I have made a printout of these questions to make it easier for you. Just click below to download your free worksheet
I encourage you to try this.
It has helped me and continues to help me. I believe it can change your life.
Please let me know in the comments section below, your experiences with this and what worked for you.
I love feedback. It gives me the chance to learn from you. You never know what may help someone else until you put it out there.